Bug fixes for containers and file transfer

This MR has mixed up two classes of fixes I've needed to get review tests running in containers over the OSG and locally.

• data files aren't being picked up correctly after file transfer, this is fixed by using the existing resolve_filename_with_transfer_fallback.
• the container file isn't being transferred for many jobs as it is added to the transfer files after the transfer files are added to the extra lines.
• submitting to the local condor pool from an OSG access point requires specifying MY.flock_local and MY.DESIRES_sites = "nogrid" so I've added these when self.inputs.osg is false. This has no impact when submitting from a local condor access point.
• MY.flock_local can be used anywhere to access the local pool, e.g., match with CIT nodes when submitting from ldas-osg.ligo.caltech.edu. I've added this for all jobs not requesting specific sites.

I have tests running with this version of bilby_pipe at CIT:/home/colm.talbot/bilby-pipe-nightly-tests/latest-250219